Should a Man Divorce a Woman if He Finds Out She is a Man? This Guy Did
He loved his wife dearly, describing her as both beautiful and feminine. But little did he know, he was married to someone who used to be a man. A fellow who only goes by the first name Jan, described his horror upon finding out that his wife was actually born a boy. The Belgian man was married to his wife for 19 years, engaging in all kinds of unmentionables with her, and is now feeling a wee bit disgusted.
A cousin from his wife’s family in Indonesia told Jan the horrible truth that would change his life forever. We can only imagine that his wife felt worse, since transgender people are often confronted with terrible reactions from potential mates.
“My second marriage was on the rocks at the time and we quickly fell in love,” Jan told the Belgian media. He also says that the gender change explains why his wife was “never very good at ironing.”
“I thought she was an attractive woman, and she was all woman – she had no male traits. She was 27 years old at the time, so I asked her if she wanted children. I was glad when she said she didn’t as I was 44 and already had two of my own,” he said.
He said that now he understands why his wife always needed to lubricate herself in the bedroom and she always said that she was taking birth control pills.
“She was always a good mother to my children, and also a fantastic cook, though we wasn’t that great at cleaning and ironing – and now I know why!”
The marriage fell apart when Jan’s wife began to go out late and wear revealing outfits. This is when he stumbled upon the secret that would hurt him so deeply. This appears to be painful for everyone.
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It’s so amazing to learn about changing of human forms. As a christian i’m strongly againts. In fact in Ibibio land(south-south Nigeria) such a thing is a taboo. I pray God to help the said husband to get through such emotional challenge.
Etefia
November 27, 2012 at 9:13 am
What a Shytty Deal lmao Lord Help Us this world is TowBack!
Ish Muhammad
November 27, 2012 at 2:55 pm
Everyone is free to marry whomever he or she wants, irrespective of s****l orientation, as long as the marriage is based on truth and love. However, if deception is involved, particularly with respect to s****l orientation, a divorce is absolutely necessary.
H. James Roseau
November 27, 2012 at 4:51 pm
I so agree with you, H.James Roseau….well said!
Vanessa
November 27, 2012 at 7:38 pm
It is lot better than killing the person for the deception.
Greg
November 27, 2012 at 8:41 pm
If the relationship was founded on a lie then there really isn’t a relationship. This man was absolutely within his rights to leave his marriage.
Kirsten
November 27, 2012 at 8:41 pm
This could never have happened to me, because before I’d marry any woman, I would have explored every s****l part of her body, would have seen her birth certificate, and have met her immediate family. But, if this did happen to me, I’d blow this fake woman’s head off. I want a real woman, not some altered, wannabee, and no one has the right to induce me into a homosexual relationship. If I wanted a f*g, I’d go find one, but I only date, and associate with heterosexual people. These transgendered people, should beware of misleading potential s****l partners, about their real identities, because there are men like me out there, that don’t play that sh’t, and will do serious harm to their a*s, if they deceive them. I am not against homosexuals, but that is not my cup of tea.
moonhead
November 27, 2012 at 9:54 pm
I remember meeting a dancer named sir lady java.
She was beautiful lady who looked a little like dorthy dandridge.
He said said he was a female impersonator.to this day I believe he was really female prentending to be a man.but thank godI never got a chance to find out
Norman hensley
November 27, 2012 at 11:06 pm
Lol. Sounds like a fake story, but in those European countries he/she surgeries are no big thing and people change genders and just go on living their lives
Erica
November 28, 2012 at 12:40 am
Just a clearning of terms, please. Trangender people are those who are actually one s*x physically, and the other biologically. s****l reassignment is sometimes necessary to correct an error. If he loved her once, what happened ? Love is unconditional. Love is supposed to be eternal. We agree it would have better had the wife disclosed her s****l information before hand. But she did’t. That’s the only thing I’d blame her for. And not being able to iron has to be one of the most feeble excuses for suspicion that I’ve ever heard. And the reader replying he’d have blown her head off. How ridiculous can a human being get? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Whether it’s known, realized or not; there are a great many men dating women who haven’t always been women. If you believe in Karma, and I do, these sexually prejudiced people will come back as sexually ambiguous people themselves. Better be careful about condeming people for situations they couldn’t avoid, even if they wanted to. Any man whose a gay basher, will end up with a homosexual son, or a lesbian daughter. Just be careful. Never accuse, least you be accused. Those supposed males, who react hostily, can more or less be accurately assumed to be covering s****l quirks in their own nature. Better to live and let live, than condeme and end up dying going to h**l.
Be blessed my friends. Let’s just have much, much, much more love in this world. That’s the only thing that can and will save us.
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Mr. A. A. Jones EDITOR.
November 28, 2012 at 2:02 am
The bible speaks against same s*x relationships from beginning to end and God doesn’t make mistakes… If he made that person a male at birth, that’s what he’ll be when he dies… That person was wrong and that’s it… I don’t have to condemn them, the bible already has, but I’m not gonna go against the bible and condone their choices… I wouldn’t want to hurt them or see them hurt but their choice to become a woman when they were born a man is their choice to be victim to God’s choices after they’ve lived it here… That spouse may have been a strong christian and this person may be in complete violation of everything he believes… I don’t blame him, I’d put a whole lot of distance between myself and that person as well and honestly, I am surprised, with todays’ mentality, that he let the she/he live… Most men today would have cut it more ways than they’d ever thought possible… He/she should be glad she lived through the ordeal and let it go… Coming out like this makes him/her a target for someone that may take this a step further on behalf of the traumatized spouse…
Frances
November 28, 2012 at 7:25 pm
GOD wrote the bible, mmmm
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110511163011AAtbirD
Degeil
December 9, 2012 at 12:12 am
Mr. A.A. Jones: You are one sick m*ther f*cker. Because I don’t want to have a romantic relationship with a d**n man, I’m supposed to suffer from homophobia, and karma will bite me in the a*s. Who the h**l are you to tell me that my not dating homosexuals is wrong? I don’t give a d**n what a queer like you say, I don’t want no homosexual, as a lover. Man, was created to have s****l relationships with women. If not, life would have long ago ceased to exist. Two men, can not make a baby, nor two women. Homosexuality, is a disease, or a deformity that happens some times during birth. No mystical god, created nothing, and certainly not no homosexuals. If you like having s*x with a d**n man, that is your problem. But don’t try to shame, or coerce, those of us that loves the opposite s*x into accepting this disgusting lifestyle. I date women, and only women, and if any homosexual pretended to be one, and wasn’t, I’d blow their d**n head off.
moonhead
December 2, 2012 at 7:41 pm
…and God judged and condemned and destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah. Do you think he has changed his mind? LOL!
Wahiid
February 8, 2013 at 5:56 am
@David Lott….Really? Of course gender matters. I would not want to be married to a man only to find out he used to be a woman. And vice versa. That’s some sick s**t. He/She should have been truthful from the beginning and if the husband didn’t have a problem with it, then they could love happily ever after. Obviously she/he was ashamed otherwise they would have come clean. He/She knew the husband would have issues with the transgender thing which is why he/she lied – or didn’t divulge the truth. It was a sham of a marriage and he had every right to get divorced. She/he better be glad the husband didn’t flip out and kill her/his a*s.
Vee
November 28, 2012 at 3:23 am
Anton go back to that same Bible and read Genesis where he made male and female. You are referencing salvation.
cassie smith
December 7, 2012 at 3:19 pm
THAT IS CRIMINAL FRAUD ,AND YOU CAN BE SUED,OR LOCKED UP FOR IT ,IF THIS STATUTE WAS BROUGHT
FORTH.
DISCLAIMER: I AM GIVEING MY OPINION,AND I AM NOT PRACTICEING LAW.
WHAT had happened was
December 15, 2012 at 6:49 pm
Spare me with that Bible and the word stuff and its not because I don’t believe in the word or God! I grew up in the Church and left because of the behavior of a couple of the members who I looked up too and respected. I was around 12 or 13 but how they directly treated me broke my heart and stills has some effect on me. A real Christian respect all people who are good people regardless of race,religion,and gender. My only regreat is the lies and that is the number one reason the husband should sue for divorce. A good relationship is based on mutual respect and truth and thank God he did’nt kill his wife!
cheche
February 11, 2013 at 2:26 am